We are currently in the Information Age – the era where geeks are beginning to take over the world.
As far as dating goes, there are plenty of geek guys out there who know the secret to being the kind of geek women love.
On the other hand, there are also plenty of geeks out there whose big brains offer no help when it comes to women.
Now, if you’re a guy with a high IQ, you might be thinking this right now:
“Geek guys can’t understand women because NOBODY understands them! I could more easily figure out both the location and momentum of a fundamental particle sooner than I could understand what women want.”
Okay, so women are hard to figure out.
Still, for a lot of geek guys, there are these three other factors at play:
They Don’t Work At It
By definition, most geeks are experts in one or more areas of life – so much so that their skill or knowledge levels in other areas might suffer.
It doesn’t matter if you are a food geek, gadget geek, music geek, film geek, or comic book geek.
You like what you like and you know what you know.
Of course, if you are a technology geek but have NO idea how to even cook French Toast, you’re not bad at cooking because something is wrong with you.
You’re bad at it because you don’t work at it.
When it comes to reading women and understanding what they want, the same idea applies.
If you DO want to work at it, try this:
- Read articles online about female psychology
- Seek out advice or opinions from female friends or acquaintances
- Experiment and try new things with new women or your existing partner
The Observer Effect
Let’s say you wanted to learn all you could about teaching English to someone from another country.
So, you sit in on some private lessons with a friend who is tutoring her brand new student from Croatia.
During the session, the Croatian student seems to be fumbling through the lesson and making a lot of mistakes. The tutor seems confused because her student did so well in the last lesson.
Days later, you find out what happened.
As it turns out, the Croatian student was very nervous because you were taking notes and talking to the tutor during the lesson.
The same thing happens when you try to understand women. You are caught up in the interaction. She is processing your responses, questions, and reactions to everything.
She is changing while you are observing.
Why is this a worse condition for geeks? Because, the smarter you are, the harder you try to analyze things.
The harder you analyze, the more you disconnect from conversations, ask leading questions, and make wrong assumptions. The more you affect what you’re observing.
How do you overcome this? Try this:
- Stop over-thinking everything
- Quiet random thoughts
- NEVER break this one rule of conversation
The dynamic of feeling superior to someone – either quietly or openly – is a great ego boost, right?
Of course, it also can make you SUPER annoying too.
The other problem with blind arrogance is that it cuts you off from valuable information.
I mean, if you are intellectually superior to someone, what can they possibly teach you? (sarcasm).
This same dynamic can creep into male-female interactions – especially when the guy perceives himself as being mentally stronger than the woman.
So, how do you prevent this from making you misread a woman and come across as super annoying?
- Remember that nobody likes a cocky know-it-all
- If you catch yourself being a cocky know-it-all, stop what you’re doing
- Have a goal of making connections naturally (without forcing them after you have “analyzed your subject”)
A Winning Approach
In the end, for most highly intelligent guys who have no problems with women, they all seem to think this same thought:
“Each woman is a new subject about which I know NOTHING. I will take the time to listen and learn and NEVER assume I have her figured out.”
Why does this work so well?
Because, it respects the normal progression a man and woman go through before becoming physically involved. Strangers, acquaintances, mutual admirers, and then lovers. It could happen in hours, months, or weeks, but that’s what happens.
If you misread her, you’ll be stuck in the first two steps.
Of course, if you keep your geek tendencies under control, you’ll pave the way for real attraction.
Later on, you’ll have no trouble whatsoever deciphering the greater subtext of her words when she says, “Uh, do you wanna go back to my place? I live alone <wink, wink>.”
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