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Whether you want better dating options, a steady girlfriend, or a better relationship, one thing is certain.

That is, the more attractive you are to the woman, the better things seem to be.

I’m not just talking about your clothes or your body. I’m talking about your attitude and approach too.

Unfortunately, all of us guys are in the same boat with this next certainty:

Women are confusing.

And yes, when we’re confused, we make mistakes. Sometimes we just give up.

Sometimes we have a TON of insecurity about our age, body shape, or hair (especially lack of).

Enter: Self-doubt. Hesitation. Isolation.

Not fun.

Neo’s Journey

In the movie The Matrix, the lead character Neo starts out the same way. He doesn’t see himself as that special. He sees himself as a nobody. He hides from life.

Despite everyone telling him how great he is (he’s “The One,” remember?), it means nothing to him.

Now, if you’ve watched this movie as many times as I have, you know what happens later.

That’s right, about a third of the way through the movie he starts to become aware of himself. He starts to realize he is not a nobody.

This is the point in the movie where Morpheus says this:

“He’s beginning to believe.”

Sure, he still doubts himself. He still does not believe he is “The One.”

He just knows that he’s not as much of a pathetic loser as he originally thought in the beginning.

Note: pulling off gravity defying kung fu moves is a great confidence builder.

A Guy’s Journey

For most of us guys, we go through a similar journey in the world of women.

You have a point in your life where you don’t feel attractive. Maybe you feel like you don’t know what to say or do. Maybe you just feel lost and alone.

Now, here’s the part you never think about:

You’re not alone. Every single guy has been there before.

Then, you read about how to have a major dating breakthrough this month.

You upgrade yourself, get out there more, and really make an effort to talk to more women.

Then, nothing.

So, you repeat the process again. Each time trying something new. Then…nothing (still).

Next, you keep studying, learning, and you read about some of the misconceptions guys have about dating.

And, you meet someone and she looks good.

You’re not sure if she likes you that much so you talk to more women and meet someone else and she looks good, really good.

When this happens, you feel that something is different. You feel stronger and more in control of your dating options.

You are now beginning to believe.

What You Need to Remember

If I look past the cool shootouts, surrealist martial arts, and badass CGI and camera angles, my biggest takeaway from The Matrix is this reminder:

Self-confidence is a destination, not a starting point.

The idea that you can just act confident and women will like you is bullshit.

Be like Neo. Take the journey toward confidence. Make a list of ways you can improve yourself (inside and out).

Then, attack that list as if your life depended on it.

Even if you only complete a few things on your list, that may be enough to get you to believe.

It may be enough to get you to feel really good about yourself.

It may be enough to make you confident enough to get the kind of woman you want and deserve.

And, when you’re back at her place, clothes are coming off, and “things” are about to happen, do you know how you’ll feel then?

That’s right. YOU will feel like The One.

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