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There are tons of articles online that teach you the “right and wrong” ways to talk to women.

There are even some articles that teach you how to talk to a woman based on whether you want a relationship or just a one night stand.

Well, I won’t sit here and act like I know what each individual woman wants to hear in order to quickly jump into bed.

If I knew that, I’d be a gazillionaire (right?).

What I can tell you is that most of us guys tend to think and talk too much in proportion to how attractive the woman is.

That is to say, the better she looks, the more we want to engineer our success with her.

Unfortunately for smart guys, “engineering” a plan with women often leads to thinking and saying too much.

Thinking and saying too much often leads to breaking Rule Number One of conversation with an attractive woman.

What happens when you break that rule?

Breaking Rule Number One = Serious Attraction Killer.

Rule Number One

Have you ever watched a movie where one character suddenly turns and talks to the audience directly?

In film, this is known as “breaking down the fourth wall.”

The action is moving along, you’re getting into the plot, then the lead character looks at you and says, “This is about to get real interesting…but you already knew that.”

This happens a few more times where he explains what’s happening and makes little wisecracks – turning each time to look at you, the audience.

Sounds like a really annoying character, right?

Yes, of course. This is why you see this type of thing so rarely in movies along with this reason:

Talking about what is happening kills the moment.

By talking, analyzing, or questioning what’s happening, you yank yourself and others out of the experience.

When you are yanked from the experience, you can no longer enjoy it.

When it comes to talking to women, this is the basis of rule number one,

Rule Number One for Talking to Women:

Never question or discuss what is happening between you and her.

Read this rule. Remember this rule. Follow this rule.

Building Attraction

Speaking of movies, whenever you see an interaction between the lead male actor and his love interest, they almost never talk about what’s happening.

He never stares into her eyes, grabs her hand, and says, “I’m feeling very attracted to you right now. Come closer so we can increase the sexual tension that we are both feeling.”

If that sounds like a ridiculous line, that’s because it is.

Any good screenwriter will leave little or no dialogue in a scene like that. Why?

Because, attraction and sexual tension are felt strongest when no words are spoken.

If you want to help attraction grow you will avoid these types of things:

• Asking her what she thinks about you
• Asking her how things are going
• Making any direct comments about your feelings for each other

Rule Number One Benefits

The other problem with breaking Rule Number One is that seeking feedback from a woman or narrating the interaction kills the sense of mystery.

This is especially true if she likes you on any level.

If you reassure her that you really, really like her and things are “going well” on the date, the mystery is gone.

Once the sense of mystery is gone, there may be nothing you can do to avoid the Friend Zone with her.

Even worse, if you ask her how she feels about you, you’ll look insecure and needy – which is one of the worst attraction killers known to man.

Or course, if you follow Rule Number One, you’ll experience these benefits:

• She’ll know you like her but wonder how much you like her
• She won’t feel the same control over you she feels over more transparent guys
• She’ll greater appreciate moments that build sexual tension (eye-gazing, touching, closeness)

He Loves Me Not

I’m sure you’ve heard the story about the girl who plucks petals from a flower while saying, “He loves me. He loves me not…”

In that story, there is the one guy she’s thinking about over all the other guys.

That one guy didn’t analyze things out loud.

He didn’t seek feedback in any way.

He followed Rule Number One and now she is crazy about him.

Be that guy.

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