A few years ago, I lost that last 10 lbs. of fat that kept me from looking great.

How did I do it? I cut calories, exercised, and took lots of vitamins and supplements.

However, within three months of losing the weight, I gained back all the weight I lost (and then some).

The worst part was that my backslide sneaked up on me and I was never really aware of what was bringing me down at the time.

The same dynamic can apply in the world of attraction and dating.

Just like you can end up gaining weight even if you cut calories, you can still lose a potential partner even if you are doing all the right things.

You think things are going great then they suddenly fall apart quickly.

How can this happen?

Simple.

You had no awareness of some of the things you were doing wrong (that were sneaking up on you).

Here are the top three to watch out for:

1. Drinking Too Much

Whether you’re out with a woman or looking to meet someone new, overdoing it with liquor can drag you down quickly.

Am I suggesting to lay off booze altogether?

No, but just avoid becoming a sloppy mess by following these tips:

  • Drink a water or a coke in between drinks
  • Always have food in your stomach if you are going out for drinks only
  • Throttle WAY back a couple of hours before the date ends

What if people say that you are more “interesting” when you are drunk?

Well, what those people probably mean is that you are more entertaining when you are over your limit.

Slurring your speech, saying stupid things, and acting outrageously can make you entertaining, but may not make you more attractive to her.

Plus, even if you think you can drink a lot and still be “okay,” why risk it?

Just like with compliments, gifts, and cologne, less is more where alcohol is concerned too.

Less of those things = more of her.

2. Camping and Smothering

Women love attention, right?

So, it only goes to follow that if a guy gives a woman a lot of attention she will be even more attracted than ever, right?

It depends.

If she is very attracted to you, she will love the extra attention.

If her feelings about you are still developing, too much attention can be a turn off.

Just think about a meal where the waiter delivers EVERYTHING at once and stands there while you eat.

He stares at you the whole time and every two minutes asks, “Is everything alright? Can I get you something else?”

Sounds pretty uncomfortable, huh?

You can’t just relax and enjoy yourself because you are constantly being watched.

This is somewhat how an attractive woman feels around a guy who is camping and smothering.

Here are some ways to avoid this type of situation when out with a woman:

  • Bring other people into the conversation
  • Change location or venue (if possible)
  • Be okay with moments of silence – especially if there is good eye contact at that time

How do you know when to step away or put space between you and her? Simple.

You step away from her when things are going well – like after a laugh or when you two have connected on something.

This sounds counter-intuitive, but let me explain…

If you step away for a minute when things are going well, she’ll miss you.

If you step away when things are getting stale, she’ll be glad you’re gone.

If you call and text only every few days, she’ll miss you.

If you call and text constantly and you’re always available anytime, she’ll think you don’t have a life.

Lesson? It’s better if she misses you.

3. Being Weird

One friend of mine who happens to be very good with women has one simple philosophy:

Look good. Have fun. Don’t be weird.

I understand the first two things, but what does he mean by not being “weird?”

Well, the way he explains it, he says that all of us guys sometimes slip into Gotta Impress Mode with a woman (especially if she is attractive).

Gotta Impress Mode is that state where you say and do things that you think will impress her or win her over.

Of course, the better she looks, the harder you try.

That’s fine if you are showing your best self to a woman, but what happens more often is that you end up doing things that are unnatural, forced, and awkward.

For example, maybe one guy read online that women like guys who are cocky and funny at the same time.

Instead of doing this a couple times with a new woman, he did it all night long – making fun of her drink, her purse, her love of cats, and ten other things too.

Yeah, it was funny when he saw her blueberry martini and said, “Is that grape Kool-Aid? You know they make drinks for grown-ups here too…”

Unfortunately, he made fun of her SO much that they never had any real conversation and his material also got a bit stale and annoying.

What’s more interesting is that he probably felt weird inside when he took cocky-funny WAY too far – yet he kept going anyway.

So, what’s the takeaway here?

If words or actions feel weird or forced beforehand, avoid them.

If you follow this one rule, you’ll enjoy these benefits:

  • You won’t look like you’re trying too hard
  • You won’t become predictable and boring
  • You won’t look apologetic and later, unconfident

Some women say that “the key to a man’s heart is through his stomach.”

Well, the key to a woman’s mind and body is through your stomach if you do this:

Trust your gut. If it feels weird, don’t do it.