There are many articles online that teach you how to “move with the confidence of James Bond.”
One problem with this teaching tool is that James Bond doesn’t exist. He’s not real!
The second problem is that Sean Connery, a virtually unknown actor before the film Dr. No, used his movements to land that role that made him a major star.
Sean Connery moved with a smooth-as-glass surety that won over the producers and directors, but, what’s most interesting is this:
He wasn’t rich or very famous when he learned how to walk and move so confidently.
Yes, he had a “movement” coach with whom he fine tuned every aspect of how he walked and held himself. It did NOT come naturally from the inside.
So, what’s the lesson for you? Easy.
Moving confidently is something you can learn and develop.
Here’s how to do it:
Whether it’s a corporate CEO, a UFC champion, or a famous rapper, they all have one thing in common; they all move confidently.
Now, I’m not here to tell you how exactly how to have confident body language because there are so many ways.
What’s most important is that you learn to walk and move in a way that feels natural to you.
The path to finding the most natural way for you is to use your powers of observation in these ways:
- Observe the way guys walk and move (in public, on TV, in movies, etc..)
- Note which guys look unsure or unconfident
- Remember the gestures and styles of guys who are the most confident-looking
When making your observations, look at guys you know and guys you don’t know. Include men from real life and also guys from T.V., movies, or sports.
After a while, you’ll start to notice patterns of movement in confident and unconfident guys from all walks of like.
Once you have a good understanding of this, move on to the next step.
So, maybe you noticed these behaviors in nervous or unconfident guys:
- Walking with head down or poor posture
- Full-hands in pockets (including thumbs)
- Looking around in an unsure or apologetic way
- Walking too quickly with an “I’m uncomfortable” vibe
- An overall stiffness that communicates a sense of unease
If you noticed these behaviors in some guys you are also aware that these same guys do not project confidence or strength.
So, if you spot any postures or movements in guys who seem to lack confidence, always ask yourself “Do I do that??”
If you answer yes to any of those behaviors, try to stop doing them!
Also, try to practice the moves, gestures, or walks of guys who made you think, “He looks like a cool guy.”
Just think, if some other guy looks cool moving and walking that way, you will too.
Once you have eliminated the telltale signs of a nervous, unconfident guy and you have been practicing some moves that look better, you are ready for the hardest step: self-feedback.
This is hard because in this step, you need to get feedback on what YOU are doing. One good way to do this is with video (from a digital cam, cell phone, webcam, or whatever you prefer).
Now as a warning, whenever you take a video or voice recording of yourself, you WILL cringe upon playback.
I cringed in the beginning and you will too.
This is actually a good thing though because it means that there is room for progress.
When you play back that two minute clip of yourself walking, sitting, leaning, or whatever, you will see habits that you absolutely HATE.
What’s great is that when you stop doing those things that annoy you, you will feel a little bit better about yourself after the next taping session.
Of course, when you repeat these steps enough, other guys may look at you and think, “He looks like a cool guy.”
This whole process may seem silly but it can seriously make you more attractive to women.
No, I’m not just showing you how to appear more confident even if you are not.
I’m showing you how to pay attention to your physiology for probably the first time in your life.
I’m showing you how to be relaxed and cool and okay with how you are sitting, moving, or walking.
I’m showing you how to be more of you.
If it worked for Sean Connery, it can work for you too.
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